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most perfect ruler of men that the world has ever seen."
What was the secret of Lincoln's success in dealing with people? I
studied the life of Abraham Lincoln for ten years and devoted all of
three years to writing and rewriting a book entitled Lincoln the
Unknown. I believe I have made as detailed and exhaustive a study
of Lincoln's personality and home life as it is possible for any being to
make. I made a special study of Lincoln's method of dealing with
people. Did he indulge in criticism? Oh, yes. As a young man in the
Pigeon Creek Valley of Indiana, he not only criticized but he wrote
letters and poems ridiculing people and dropped these letters on the
country roads where they were sure to be found. One of these
letters aroused resentments that burned for a lifetime.
Even after Lincoln had become a practicing lawyer in Springfield,
Illinois, he attacked his opponents openly in letters published in the
newspapers. But he did this just once too often.
In the autumn of 1842 he ridiculed a vain, pugnacious politician by
the name of James Shields. Lincoln lamned him through an
anonymous letter published in Springfield Journal. The town roared
with laughter. Shields, sensitive and proud, boiled with indignation.
He found out who wrote the letter, leaped on his horse, started after
Lincoln, and challenged him to fight a duel. Lincoln didn't want to
fight. He was opposed to dueling, but he couldn't get out of it and
save his honor. He was given the choice of weapons. Since he had
very long arms, he chose cavalry broadswords and took lessons in
sword fighting from a West Point graduate; and, on the appointed
day, he and Shields met on a sandbar in the Mississippi River,
prepared to fight to the death; but, at the last minute, their seconds
interrupted and stopped the duel.
That was the most lurid personal incident in Lincoln's life. It taught
him an invaluable lesson in the art of dealing with people. Never
again did he write an insulting letter. Never again did he ridicule
anyone. And from that time on, he almost never criticized anybody
for anything.
Time after time, during the Civil War, Lincoln put a new general at
the head of the Army of the Potomac, and each one in turn -
McClellan, Pope, Burnside, Hooker, Meade - blundered tragically and
drove Lincoln to pacing the floor in despair. Half the nation savagely
condemned these incompetent generals, but Lincoln, "with malice
toward none, with charity for all," held his peace. One of his favorite
quotations was "Judge not, that ye be not judged."
And when Mrs. Lincoln and others spoke harshly of the southern
people, Lincoln replied: "Don't criticize them; they are just what we
would be under similar circumstances."
Yet if any man ever had occasion to criticize, surely it was Lincoln.
Let's take just one illustration:
The Battle of Gettysburg was fought during the first three days of
July 1863. During the night of July 4, Lee began to retreat southward
while storm clouds deluged the country with rain. When Lee reached
the Potomac with his defeated army, he found a swollen, impassable
river in front of him, and a victorious Union Army behind him. Lee
was in a trap. He couldn't escape. Lincoln saw that. Here was a
golden, heaven-sent opportunity-the opportunity to capture Lee's
army and end the war immediately. So, with a surge of high hope,
Lincoln ordered Meade not to call a council of war but to attack Lee
immediately. Lincoln telegraphed his orders and then sent a special
messenger to Meade demanding immediate action. |