帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:55:03

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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">2 - A Sure Way Of Making Enemies -And How To Avoid It<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">When Theodore Roosevelt was in the White House, he confessed<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">that if he could be right 75 percent of the time, he would reach the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">highest measure of his expectation.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">If that was the highest rating that one of the most distinguished men<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">of the twentieth century could hope to obtain, what about you and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">me?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">If you can be sure of being right only 55 percent of the time, you can<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">go down to Wall Street and make a million dollars a day. If you can't<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">be sure of being right even 55 percent of the time, why should you<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">tell other people they are wrong?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">You can tell people they are wrong by a look or an intonation or a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">gesture just as eloquently as you can in words - and if you tell them<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">they are wrong, do you make them want to agree with you? Never!<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">For you have struck a direct blow at their intelligence, judgment,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">pride and self-respect. That will make them want to strike back. But<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">it will never make them want to change their minds. You may then<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">hurl at them all the logic of a Plato or an Immanuel Kant, but you will<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">not alter their opinions, for you have hurt their feelings.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Never begin by announcing "I am going to prove so-and-so to you."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">That's bad. That's tantamount to saying: "I'm smarter than you are,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I'm going to tell you a thing or two and make you change your<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">mind."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">That is a challenge. It arouses opposition and makes the listener<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">want to battle with you before you even start.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">It is difficult, under even the most benign conditions, to change<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">people's minds. So why make it harder? Why handicap yourself?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">If you are going to prove anything, don't let anybody know it. Do it<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">so subtly, so adroitly, that no one will feel that you are doing it. This<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">was expressed succinctly by Alexander Pope:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Men must be taught as if you taught them not And things unknown<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">proposed as things forgot.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Over three hundred years ago Galileo said:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">within himself.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">As Lord Chesterfield said to his son:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Be wiser than other people if you can; but do not tell them so.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Socrates said repeatedly to his followers in Athens:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">One thing only I know, and that is that I know nothing.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Well, I can't hope to be any smarter than Socrates, so I have quit<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">telling people they are wrong. And I find that it pays.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">If a person makes a statement that you think is wrong - yes, even<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">that you know is wrong - isn't it better to begin by saying: "Well,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">now, look, I thought otherwise, but I may be wrong. I frequently<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">am. And if I am wrong, I want to be put right. Let's examine the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">facts."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">There's magic, positive magic, in such phrases as: "I may be wrong.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I frequently am. Let's examine the facts."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Nobody in the heavens above or on earth beneath or in the waters<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">under the earth will ever object to your saying: "I may be wrong.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Let's examine the facts."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">One of our class members who used this approach in dealing with<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">customers was Harold Reinke, a Dodge dealer in Billings, Montana.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">He reported that because of the pressures of the automobile<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">business, he was often hard-boiled and callous when dealing with<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">customers' complaints. This caused flared tempers, loss of business<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and general unpleasantness.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">He told his class: "Recognizing that this was getting me nowhere<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"This approach becomes quite disarming, and by the time the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">customer releases his feelings, he is usually much more reasonable<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">them diplomatically and courteously will help beat the competition."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">You will never get into trouble by admitting that you may be wrong.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">That will stop all argument and inspire your opponent to be just as<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:55:17

<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">If you know positively that a person is wrong, and you bluntly tell<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">him or her so, what happens? Let me illustrate. Mr. S---- a young<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">New York attorney, once argued a rather important case before the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">United States Supreme Court (Lustgarten v. Fleet Corporation 280<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">U.S. 320). The case involved a considerable sum of money and an<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">important question of law. During the argument, one of the Supreme<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Court justices said to him: "The statute of limitations in admiralty law<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">is six years, is it not?"<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Mr. S---- stopped, stared at the Justice for a moment, and then said<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">bluntly: "Your Honor, there is no statute of limitations in admiralty."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"A hush fell on the court," said Mr. S---- as he related his experience<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">to one of the author's classes, "and the temperature in the room<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">told him so. But did that make him friendly? No. I still believe that I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">had the law on my side. And I know that I spoke better than I ever<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Few people are logical. Most of us are prejudiced and biased. Most of<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">us are blighted with preconceived notions, with jealousy, suspicion,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">fear, envy and pride. And most citizens don't want to change their<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Mind in the Making.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">We sometimes find ourselves changing our minds without any<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">resistance or heavy emotion, but if we are told we are wrong, we<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">resent the imputation and harden our hearts. We are incredibly<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">heedless in the formation of our beliefs, but find ourselves filled with<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">an illicit passion for them when anyone proposes to rob us of their<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"my" is the most important one in human affairs, and properly to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">reckon with it is the beginning of wisdom. It has the same force<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">whether it is "my" dinner, "my" dog, and "my" house, or "my" father,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"my" country, and "my" God. We not only resent the imputation that<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">our watch is wrong, or our car shabby, but that our conception of<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the canals of Mars, of the pronunciation of "Epictetus," of the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">revision. We like to continue to believe what we have been<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">doubt is cast upon any of our assumptions leads us to seek every<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:55:31

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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Carl Rogers, the eminent psychologist, wrote in his book On<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I have found it of enormous value when I can permit myself to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">oneself to understand another? I think it is. Our first reaction to most<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">of the statements (which we hear from other people) is an<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">evaluation or judgment, rather than an understanding of it. When<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">someone expresses some feeling, attitude or belief, our tendency is<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">abnormal," "that's unreasonable," "that's incorrect," "that's not nice."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Very rarely do we permit ourselves to understand precisely what the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">meaning of the statement is to the other person. (*)<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">[*] Adapted from Carl R. Rogers, On Becoming a Person (Boston:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Houghton Mifflin, 1961), pp. 18ff.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I once employed an interior decorator to make some draperies for<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">my home. When the bill arrived, I was dismayed.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">A few days later, a friend dropped in and looked at the draperies.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">The price was mentioned, and she exclaimed with a note of triumph:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"What? That's awful. I am afraid he put one over on you."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">True? Yes, she had told the truth, but few people like to listen to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">truths that reflect on their judgment. So, being human, I tried to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">defend myself. I pointed out that the best is eventually the cheapest,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">that one can't expect to get quality and artistic taste at bargainbasement prices, and so on and on.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">The next day another friend dropped in, admired the draperies,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">afford such exquisite creations for her home. My reaction was totally<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">different. "Well, to tell the truth," I said, "I can't afford them myself.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I paid too much. I'm sorry I ordered them,"<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">When we are wrong, we may admit it to ourselves. And if we are<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">handled gently and tactfully, we may admit it to others and even<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">take pride in our frankness and broad-mindedness. But not if<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Horace Greeley, the most famous editor in America during the time<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">of the Civil War, disagreed violently with Lincoln's policies. He<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">campaign of argument, ridicule and abuse. He waged this bitter<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">campaign month after month, year after year. In fact, he wrote a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">brutal, bitter, sarcastic and personal attack on President Lincoln the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">night Booth shot him.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">But did all this bitterness make Lincoln agree with Greeley? Not at<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">all. Ridicule and abuse never do. If you want some excellent<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">suggestions about dealing with people and managing yourself and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">improving your personality, read Benjamin Franklin's autobiography -<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">one of the most fascinating life stories ever written, one of the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">classics of American literature. Ben Franklin tells how he conquered<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the iniquitous habit of argument and transformed himself into one of<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the most able, suave and diplomatic men in American history.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">One day, when Ben Franklin was a blundering youth, an old Quaker<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">friend took him aside and lashed him with a few stinging truths,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">something like this:</SPAN>

帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:56:04

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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Ben, you are impossible. Your opinions have a slap in them for<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">everyone who differs with you. They have become so offensive that<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">nobody cares for them. Your friends find they enjoy themselves<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">better when you are not around. You know so much that no man can<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">tell you anything. Indeed, no man is going to try, for the effort would<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">lead only to discomfort and hard work. So you are not likely ever to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">know any more than you do now, which is very little.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">One of the finest things I know about Ben Franklin is the way he<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">accepted that smarting rebuke. He was big enough and wise enough<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">to realize that it was true, to sense that he was headed for failure<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and social disaster. So he made a right-about-face. He began<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">immediately to change his insolent, opinionated ways.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"I made it a rule," said Franklin, "to forbear all direct contradiction to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the sentiment of others, and all positive assertion of my own, I even<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">forbade myself the use of every word or expression in the language<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">that imported a fix'd opinion, such as 'certainly,' 'undoubtedly,' etc.,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and I adopted, instead of them, 'I conceive,' 'I apprehend, ' or 'I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">imagine' a thing to be so or so, or 'it so appears to me at present.'<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">When another asserted something that I thought an error, I deny'd<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">myself the pleasure of contradicting him abruptly, and of showing<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">immediately some absurdity in his proposition: and in answering I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">began by observing that in certain cases or circumstances his opinion<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">would be right, but in the present case there appear'd or seem'd to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">me some difference, etc. I soon found the advantage of this change<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">in my manner; the conversations I engag'd in went on more<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">pleasantly. The modest way in which I propos'd my opinions procur'd<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">them a readier reception and less contradiction; I had less<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">mortification when I was found to be in the wrong, and I more easily<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">prevaile'd with others to give up their mistakes and join with me<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">when I happened to be in the right.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"And this mode, which I at first put on with some violence to natural<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">inclination, became at length so easy, and so habitual to me, that<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">perhaps for these fifty years past no one has ever heard a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">dogmatical expression escape me. And to this habit (after my<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">character of integrity) I think it principally owing that I had earned so<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">much weight with my fellow citizens when I proposed new<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">institutions, or alterations in the old, and so much influence in public<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">councils when I became a member; for I was but a bad speaker,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">never eloquent, subject to much hesitation in my choice of words,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">hardly correct in language, and yet I generally carried my points."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">How do Ben Franklin's methods work in business? Let's take two<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">examples.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Katherine A, Allred of Kings Mountain, North Carolina, is an industrial<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">engineering supervisor for a yarn-processing plant. She told one of<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">our classes how she handled a sensitive problem before and after<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">taking our training:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Part of my responsibility," she reported, "deals with setting up and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">maintaining incentive systems and standards for our operators so<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">they can make more money by producing more yarn. The system we<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">were using had worked fine when we had only two or three different<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">types of yarn, but recently we had expanded our inventory and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">capabilities to enable us to run more than twelve different varieties.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">The present system was no longer adequate to pay the operators<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">fairly for the work being performed and give them an incentive to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">increase production. I had worked up a new system which would<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">enable us to pay the operator by the class of yam she was running at<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">any one particular time. With my new system in hand, I entered the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">meeting determined to prove to the management that my system<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">was the right approach. I told them in detail how they were wrong<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and showed where they were being unfair and how I had all the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">answers they needed. To say the least, I failed miserably! I had<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">become so busy defending my position on the new system that I had<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">left them no opening to graciously admit their problems on the old<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">one. The issue was dead.</SPAN>

帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:56:24

<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"After several sessions of this course, I realized all too well where I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">had made my mistakes. I called another meeting and this time I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">asked where they felt their problems were. We discussed each point,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and I asked them their opinions on which was the best way to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">proceed. With a few low-keyed suggestions, at proper intervals, I let<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">them develop my system themselves. At the end of the meeting<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">when I actually presented my system, they enthusiastically accepted<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">it.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"I am convinced now that nothing good is accomplished and a lot of<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">damage can be done if you tell a person straight out that he or she is<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">wrong. You only succeed in stripping that person of self-dignity and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">making yourself an unwelcome part of any discussion."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Let's take another example - and remember these cases I am citing<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">are typical of the experiences of thousands of other people. R. V.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Crowley was a salesman for a lumber company in New York. Crowley<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">admitted that he had been telling hard-boiled lumber inspectors for<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">years that they were wrong. And he had won the arguments too. But<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">it hadn't done any good. "For these lumber inspectors," said Mr.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Crowley, "are like baseball umpires. Once they make a decision, they<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">never change it,"<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Mr. Crowley saw that his firm was losing thousands of dollars<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">through the arguments he won. So while taking my course, he<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">results? Here is the story as he told it to the fellow members of his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">class:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"One morning the phone rang in my office. A hot and bothered<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">person at the other end proceeded to inform me that a car of lumber<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">we had shipped into his plant was entirely unsatisfactory. His firm<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">had stopped unloading and requested that we make immediate<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">arrangements to remove the stock from their yard. After about onefourth of the car had been unloaded, their lumber inspector reported<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">that the lumber was running 55 percent below grade. Under the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">circumstances, they refused to accept it.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"I immediately started for his plant and on the way turned over in<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">my mind the best way to handle the situation. Ordinarily, under such<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">circumstances, I should have quoted grading rules and tried, as a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">result of my own experience and knowledge as a lumber inspector,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">to convince the other inspector that the lumber was actually up to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">grade, and that he was misinterpreting the rules in his inspection.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">However, I thought I would apply the principles learned in this<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">training.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"When I arrived at the plant, I found the purchasing agent and the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">lumber inspector in a wicked humor, both set for an argument and a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">fight. We walked out to the car that was being unloaded, and I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">requested that they continue to unload so that I could see how<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">things were going. I asked the inspector to go right ahead and lay<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">out the rejects, as he had been doing, and to put the good pieces in<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">another pile.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"After watching him for a while it began to dawn on me that his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">inspection actually was much too strict and that he was<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">misinterpreting the rules. This particular lumber was white pine, and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I knew the inspector was<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">thoroughly schooled in hard woods but not a competent,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">experienced inspector on white pine. White pine happened to be my<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">grading the lumber? None whatever. I kept on watching and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">wrong. I emphasized that my only reason for asking was in order<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"By asking questions in a very friendly, cooperative spirit, and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">insisting continually that they were right in laying out boards not<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">satisfactory to their purpose, I got him warmed up, and the strained<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">relations between us began to thaw and melt away. An occasional<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">carefully put remark on my part gave birth to the idea in his mind<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">that possibly some of these rejected pieces were actually within the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">grade that they had bought, and that their requirements demanded<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">a more expensive grade. I was very careful, however, not to let him<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">think I was making an issue of this point.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Gradually his whole attitude changed. He finally admitted to me that<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">he was not experienced on white pine and began to ask me<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">questions about each piece as it came out of the car, I would explain<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">why such a piece came within the grade specified, but kept on<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">insisting that we did not want him to take it if it was unsuitable for<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">their purpose. He finally got to the point where he felt guilty every<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">time he put a piece in the rejected pile. And at last he saw that the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:56:41

<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"In that one instance alone, a little tact, and the determination to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">refrain from telling the other man he was wrong, saved my company<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">a substantial amount of cash, and it would be hard to place a money<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">value on the good will that was saved."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Martin Luther King was asked how, as a pacifist, he could be an<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">nation's highest-ranking black officer. Dr. King replied, "I judge<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">people by their own principles - not by my own."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">In a similar way, General Robert E. Lee once spoke to the president<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">of the Confederacy, Jefferson Davis, in the most glowing terms about<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">a certain officer under his command. Another officer in attendance<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">was astonished. "General," he said, " do you not know that the man<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">of whom you speak so highly is one of your bitterest enemies who<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">misses no opportunity to malign you?" "Yes," replied General Lee,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"but the president asked my opinion of him; he did not ask for his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">opinion of me."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">By the way, I am not revealing anything new in this chapter. Two<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">thousand years ago, Jesus said: "Agree with thine adversary<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">quickly."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">And 2,200 years before Christ was born, King Akhtoi of Egypt gave<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">his son some shrewd advice - advice that is sorely needed today. "Be<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">diplomatic," counseled the King. "It will help you gain your point."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">In other words, don't argue with your customer or your spouse or<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">your adversary. Don't tell them they are wrong, don't get them<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">stirred up. Use a little diplomacy.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">• Principle 2 - Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">say, "You're wrong."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Within a minute's walk of my house there was a wild stretch of virgin<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">springtime, where the squirrels nested and reared their young, and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the horseweeds grew as tall as a horse's head. This unspoiled<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">woodland was called Forest Park - and it was a forest, probably not<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">much different in appearance from what it was when Columbus<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">discovered America. I frequently walked in this park with Rex, my<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">little Boston bulldog. He was a friendly, harmless little hound; and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">since we rarely met anyone in the park, I took Rex along without a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">leash or a muzzle.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">One day we encountered a mounted policeman in the park, a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">policeman itching to show his authority.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"'What do you mean by letting that dog run loose in the park without<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">a muzzle and leash?" he reprimanded me. "Don't you know it's<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">against the law?"<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Yes, I know it is," I replied softy, "but I didn't think he would do any<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">harm out here."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"You didn't think! You didn't think! The law doesn't give a tinker's<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">damn about what you think. That dog might kill a squirrel or bite a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">child. Now, I'm going to let you off this time; but if I catch this dog<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">out here again without a muzzle and a leash, you'll have to tell it to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the judge ."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">I meekly promised to obey.</SPAN>

帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:57:01

<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">And I did obey - for a few times. But Rex didn't like the muzzle, and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">neither did I; so we decided to take a chance. Everything was lovely<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">for a while, and then we struck a snag. Rex and I raced over the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">brow of a hill one afternoon and there, suddenly - to my dismay - I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">saw the majesty of the law, astride a bay horse. Rex was out in<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">front, heading straight for the officer.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I was in for it. I knew it. So I didn't wait until the policeman started<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">talking. I beat him to it. I said: "Officer, you've caught me redhanded. I'm guilty. I have no alibis, no excuses. You warned me last<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">week that if I brought the dog out here again without a muzzle you<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">would fine me."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Well, now," the policeman responded in a soft tone. "I know it's a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">temptation to let a little dog like that have a run out here when<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">nobody is around."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Sure it's a temptation," I replied, "but it is against the law."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Well, a little dog like that isn't going to harm anybody," the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">policeman remonstrated.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"No, but he may kill squirrels," I said.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Well now, I think you are taking this a bit too seriously," he told me.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"I'll tell you what you do. You just let him run over the hill there<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">where I can't see him - and we'll forget all about it."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">That policeman, being human, wanted a feeling of importance; so<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">when I began to condemn myself, the only way he could nourish his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">self-esteem was to take the magnanimous attitude of showing<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">mercy.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">But suppose I had tried to defend myself - well, did you ever argue<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">with a policeman?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">But instead of breaking lances with him, I admitted that he was<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">absolutely right and I was absolutely wrong; I admitted it quickly,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">openly, and with enthusiasm. The affair terminated graciously in my<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">taking his side and his taking my side. Lord Chesterfield himself<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">could hardly have been more gracious than this mounted policeman,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">who, only a week previously, had threatened to have the law on me.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">If we know we are going to be rebuked anyhow, isn't it far better to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">beat the other person to it and do it ourselves? Isn't it much easier<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">to listen to self-criticism than to bear condemnation from alien lips?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Say about yourself all the derogatory things you know the other<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">person is thinking or wants to say or intends to say - and say them<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">before that person has a chance to say them. The chances are a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">hundred to one that a generous, forgiving attitude will be taken and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">your mistakes will be minimized just as the mounted policeman did<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">with me and Rex.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Ferdinand E. Warren, a commercial artist, used this technique to win<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the good will of a petulant, scolding buyer of art.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"It is important, in making drawings for advertising and publishing<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">purposes, to be precise and very exact," Mr. Warren said as he told<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the story.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Some art editors demand that their commissions be executed<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">immediately; and in these cases, some slight error is liable to occur. I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">knew one art director in particular who was always delighted to find<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">fault with some little thing. I have often left his office in disgust, not<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">because of the criticism, but because of his method of attack.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Recently I delivered a rush job to this editor, and he phoned me to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">call at his office immediately. He said something was wrong. When I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">arrived, I found just what I had anticipated - and dreaded. He was<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">hostile, gloating over his chance to criticize. He demanded with heat<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">why I had done so and so. My opportunity had come to apply the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">self-criticism I had been studying about. So I said: ''Mr. So-and-so, if<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">what you say is true, I am at fault and there is absolutely no excuse<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">for my blunder. I have been doing drawings for you long enough to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">know bet-ter. I'm ashamed of myself.'<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"Immediately he started to defend me. 'Yes, you're right, but after<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">all, this isn't a serious mistake. It is only -'<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"I interrupted him. 'Any mistake,' I said, 'may be costly and they are<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">all irritating.'</SPAN>

帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:57:13

<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"He started to break in, but I wouldn't let him. I was having a grand<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">time. For the first time in my life, I was criticizing myself - and I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">loved it.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">" 'I should have been more careful,' I continued. 'You give me a lot<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">of work, and you deserve the best; so I'm going to do this drawing<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">all over.'<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">" 'No! No!' he protested. 'I wouldn't think of putting you to all that<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">trouble.' He praised my work, assured me that he wanted only a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">minor change and that my slight error hadn't cost his firm any<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">money; and, after all, it was a mere detail - not worth worrying<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">about.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"My eagerness to criticize myself took all the fight out of him. He<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">ended up by taking me to lunch; and before we parted, he gave me<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">a check and another commission"<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">admit one's errors. It not only clears the air of guilt and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">error.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Bruce Harvey of Albuquerque, New Mexico, had incorrectly<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">authorized payment of full wages to an employee on sick leave.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">When he discovered his error, he brought it to the attention of the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">employee and explained that to correct the mistake he would have to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">reduce his next paycheck by the entire amount of the overpayment.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">The employee pleaded that as that would cause him a serious<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">financial problem, could the money be repaid over a period of time?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">In order to do this, Harvey explained, he would have to obtain his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">supervisor's approval. "And this I knew," reported Harvey, "would<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">result in a boss-type explosion, While trying to decide how to handle<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">this situation better, I realized that the whole mess was my fault and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I would have to admit I it to my boss.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"I walked into his office, told him that I had made a mistake and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">then informed him of the complete facts. He replied in an explosive<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">manner that it was the fault of the personnel department. I repeated<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">that it was my fault. He exploded again about carelessness in the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">accounting department. Again I explained it was my fault. He blamed<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">two other people in the office. But each time I reiterated it was my<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">straighten it out.' The error was corrected and nobody got into<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">trouble. I felt great because I was able to handle a tense situation<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and had the courage not to seek alibis. My boss has had more<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">respect for me ever since."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Any fool can try to defend his or her mistakes - and most fools do -<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">but it raises one above the herd and gives one a feeling of nobility<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and exultation to admit one's mistakes. For example, one of the most<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">beautiful things that history records about Robert E. Lee is the way<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">he blamed himself and only himself for the failure of Pickett's charge<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">at Gettysburg.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Pickett's charge was undoubtedly the most brilliant and picturesque<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">attack that ever occurred in the Western world. General George E.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Pickett himself was picturesque. He wore his hair so long that his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">auburn locks almost touched his shoulders; and, like Napoleon in his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Italian campaigns, he wrote ardent love-letters almost daily while on<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the battlefield. His devoted troops cheered him that tragic July<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">afternoon as he rode off jauntily toward the Union lines, his cap set<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">at a rakish angle over his right ear. They cheered and they followed<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">him, man touching man, rank pressing rank, with banners flying and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">bayonets gleaming in the sun. It was a gallant sight. Daring.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Magnificent. A murmur of admiration ran through the Union lines as<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">they beheld it.</SPAN>

帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:57:42

<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Pickett's troops swept forward at any easy trot, through orchard and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Suddenly the Union infantry rose from behind the stone wall on<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Cemetery Ridge where they had been hiding and fired volley after<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">volley into Pickett's onrushing troops. The crest of the hill was a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">sheet of flame, a slaughterhouse, a blazing volcano. In a few<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">minutes, all of Pickett's brigade commanders except one were down,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and four-fifths of his five thousand men had fallen.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">General Lewis A. Armistead, leading the troops in the final plunge,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">ran forward, vaulted over the stone wall, and, waving his cap on the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">They did. They leaped over the wall, bayoneted their enemies,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">smashed skulls with clubbed muskets, and planted the battleflags of<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the South on Cemetery Ridge. The banners waved there only for a<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">moment. But that moment, brief as it was, recorded the high-water<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">mark of the Confederacy.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Pickett's charge - brilliant, heroic - was nevertheless the beginning of<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the end. Lee had failed. He could not penetrate the North. And he<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">knew it.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">The South was doomed.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Lee was so saddened, so shocked, that he sent in his resignation and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">This had gone wrong and that had gone awry.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">But Lee was far too noble to blame others. As Pickett's beaten and<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">fault," he confessed. "I and I alone have lost this battle."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Few generals in all history have had the courage and character to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Michael Cheung, who teaches our course in Hong Kong, told of how<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">the Chinese culture presents some special problems and how<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">tradition. He had one middle-aged class member who had been<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">opium addict, but was now cured. In Chinese tradition an older<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">person cannot take the first step. The father felt that it was up to his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">son to take the initiative toward a reconciliation. In an early session,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">he told the class about the grandchildren he had never seen and how<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">much he desired to be reunited with his son. His classmates, all<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Chinese, understood his conflict between his desire and longestablished tradition. The father felt that young people should have<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">respect for their elders and that he was right in not giving in to his<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">desire, but to wait for his son to come to him.</SPAN>

帅哥 发表于 2009-1-1 17:57:52

<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Toward the end of the course the father again addressed his class. "I<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">have pondered this problem," he said. "Dale Carnegie says, 'If you<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.' It is too late for me to<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">admit it quickly, but I can admit it emphatically. I wronged my son.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">He was right in not wanting to see me and to expel me from his life.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">I may lose face by asking a younger person's forgiveness, but I was<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">at fault and it is my responsibility to admit this." The class applauded<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">and gave him their full support. At the next class he told how he<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">went to his son's house, asked for and received forgiveness and was<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">now embarked on a new relationship with his son, his daughter-inlaw and the grandchildren he had at last met.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Elbert Hubbard was one of the most original authors who ever stirred<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">resentment. But Hubbard with his rare skill for handling people<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">frequently turned his enemies into friends.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">For example, when some irritated reader wrote in to say that he<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">didn't agree with such and such an article and ended by calling<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Hubbard this and that, Elbert Hubbard would answer like this:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Come to think it over, I don't entirely agree with it myself. Not<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">everything I wrote yesterday appeals to me today. I am glad to learn<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">what you think on the subject. The next time you are in the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">neighborhood you must visit us and we'll get this subject threshed<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">out for all time. So here is a handclasp over the miles, and I am,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Yours sincerely,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">What could you say to a man who treated you like that?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">When we are right, let's try to win people gently and tactfully to our<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">way of thinking, and when we are wrong - and that will be<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">surprisingly often, if we are honest with ourselves - let's admit our<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">mistakes quickly and with enthusiasm. Not only will that technique<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">produce astonishing results; but, believe it or not, it is a lot more<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">fun, under the circumstances, than trying to defend oneself.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Remember the old proverb: "By fighting you never get enough, but<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">by yielding you get more than you expected."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">• Principle 3 - If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">If your temper is aroused and you tell 'em a thing or two, you will<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">have a fine time unloading your feelings. But what about the other<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">person? Will he share your pleasure? Will your belligerent tones, your<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">hostile attitude, make it easy for him to agree with you?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"If you come at me with your fists doubled," said Woodrow Wilson,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">"I think I can promise you that mine will double as fast as yours; but<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">if you come to me and say, 'Let us sit down and take counsel<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">together, and, if we differ from each other, understand why it is that<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">we differ, just what the points at issue are,' we will presently find<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">that we are not so far apart after all, that the points on which we<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">differ are few and the points on which we agree are many, and that<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">if we only have the patience and the candor and the desire to get<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">together, we will get together."<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">Nobody appreciated the truth of Woodrow Wilson's statement more<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">than John D. Rockefeller, Jr. Back in 1915, Rockefeller was the most<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">fiercely despised man in Colorado, One of the bloodiest strikes in the<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">terrible years. Irate, belligerent miners were demanding higher<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-layout-grid-align: none" align=left><SPAN lang=X-NONE style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: X-NONE">wages from the Colorado Fuel and Iron Company; Rockefeller<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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